When something goes wrong
They are sick, they have gone quiet, they got moved, somebody died. What to do, who to call, and in what order.
Medical
They're sick and nobody is doing anything. What do I do?
Copy linkEscalate by name and title, in that order: the Health Services Administrator, then the Clinical Director, then the warden, then the regional health services administrator.
Document as you go — when they first reported symptoms, when they submitted each sick call request, what they were told, what medication they are or are not receiving. Dates and specifics move things. General concern does not.
Medical is also the strongest case for a congressional caseworker, and it is the category where the administrative remedy process actually works.
What if it's an emergency?
Copy linkCall the institution and ask for the Captain or the Operations
Are they safe?
Copy linkAt a camp or a low, almost certainly. I did eighteen months at a low and was never in a fight. The version of prison you are picturing is television, and it is not what a federal low is.
The real risks are not the ones that keep you awake. They are medical care that does not arrive, and K2, which is the most common cause of medical emergencies inside and which they should stay entirely away from.
If their case is one of the few that genuinely carries risk — law enforcement, prosecution, a sex offense, or cooperation on the record — that is a different conversation and it should have happened with their attorney before sentencing. Email me if that is you.
When you cannot reach them
They've stopped calling and I can't reach them. What happened?
Copy linkUsually one of three things: a
The locator will eventually show a transfer. For the other two, call the
Each facility's page here shows current operations, and the alert service emails you when their locks down and when it lifts.
What is the SHU and how long will they be there?
Copy linkThe Special Housing Unit. Twenty-three hours a day in a cell, one hour out if they are lucky, none of their property, and three officers cuffing them at the wrists and ankles to walk them to a shower.
Two ways in. Disciplinary segregation follows a hearing and has a set length. Pending-investigation placement requires them to have done nothing at all and can run weeks with no finding at the end of it.
You will be told very little either way, their phone and visiting access will be restricted, and their First Step Act credits stop accruing while they are in there. That last part is the piece nobody mentions, and it costs real time.
They got a shot. What does that mean for their release date?
Copy linkDepends entirely on the severity tier, and those are set by regulation at 28 C.F.R. 541.3 rather than by anyone's mood:
- Greatest severity, the 100 codes. Ordinarily 27 to 41 days of good conduct time disallowed. A phone, a weapon, an assault.
- High severity, the 200 codes. Ordinarily 14 to 27 days. Fighting, drugs, stealing.
- Moderate, the 300 codes. Ordinarily up to 14 days.
- Low, the 400 codes. Ordinarily up to 7, and only on a repeat of the same code within six months.
The good time is the visible cost. The larger one is usually invisible: a shot is a reason to cut their halfway house recommendation, and that is measured in months rather than days. They can appeal to the Regional Director, the clock is short, and it rarely works and is still worth doing because the written record is what makes anything later possible.
They got transferred with no warning. Why?
Copy linkBed space, a change in their points, a disciplinary decision, a medical need, or a program they were approved for. Nobody will explain which.
Practical consequences: their property may take weeks to catch up, and your visiting approval does not automatically move with them and may have to be redone from the start. Begin that immediately rather than after the first refused visit.
A death in the family
Someone in the family died. How do I tell them?
Copy linkNotify the institution through the
Then tell them yourself, on a call, if you possibly can. Finding out through official channels is worse, and men remember which way they were told for the rest of their sentence.
Can they come to the funeral?
Copy linkUnlikely.
Ask anyway, immediately, in writing, and have them ask their unit team the same day from their side. The answer is usually no and the request costs nothing, and the timeline is short enough that a day of hesitation decides it.
Lawyers, and the rest
Do I need to get the lawyer involved?
Copy linkFor most of what goes wrong inside, no. Medical care, a lost sentence computation, a halfway house referral that has not happened — those run through the administrative remedy process, which is free, and through a congressional caseworker, who is also free. A lawyer adds cost and rarely speed.
Where you do want one: a new charge arising from something inside, an immigration detainer, a 2255 or a resentencing question, or anything touching their conviction rather than their conditions.
What you never want is a non-lawyer selling you any of the above. That pitch has its own page, and it exists because families in exactly your position are the target.
They sound different / depressed / far away. What do I do?
Copy linkI was that guy on the other end of the phone, so I can tell you what is usually happening. Some of it is the fifteen-minute clock and having no news worth reporting. Some of it is that they are managing how they come across, because sounding fine is a job they have taken on for your benefit. And some of it is real.
What does not help: asking whether they are okay, which they will answer “fine” to every time, and asking on every call, which teaches them to perform harder.
What does: ask small concrete questions. What did they eat, what are they reading, who did they talk to today, what is their job. Men who had somebody asking about Tuesday rather than about their soul stayed connected to the outside far better.
If it is more than that — they have stopped calling, stopped eating, stopped caring about their date — ask them directly to put in for psychology, and know what they will get, which is a PsyD maybe once a month and medication that is hard to come by. If you think they are in danger, call the unit team and say the words plainly. The response will be clumsy. It is still a response, and waiting is worse.
Kids
What to tell them, whether to tell the school, whether they should visit, and whether this damages them.
These pages cover the general rules. Your situation has details they don't. Email me a question. Answers are free, and "you don't need to pay anyone for this" is my most common answer.
I answer in the order received, usually within a couple of days. I have a day job. If your situation genuinely needs more than an email, I take a limited number of consults, so say so and we'll work it out.
Someone else is sitting exactly where you are. Pass it on.